Hola, lovely people! I hope everyone’s doing good. So you can pretty much predict my inconsistency in writing over the period of time. Forgive me for that. Anyway today I’m here to talk about self love, why it is important in our lives, what role does it play in healing ourselves and how.
What is self-love?
Firstly, what is Love? We all know it since we all have experienced love in one way or that other right? A feeling so pure that it’s meaning differs for each and every individual. And when we love someone, we take care of their needs, necessities, happiness and well-being. We never want to hurt the person we love and most importantly we give them our time.
So coming to self-love, you can know it all by yourself that it means the “love of self”. Comparing love and self-love we only find one difference that is whom we are loving at a particular moment of time and period. When we love ourselves, take care of our own needs, necessities, happiness is what self love means. At times, it demands us to be selfish, asking us to prioritise what we want for ourselves. And that’s totally fine to do so, because of all the love that we give to other people, we are allowed to give some to ourselves too.
Why self love is important to us?
Belonging to a generation where everything happens at such a fast pace, demanding competitiveness in almost everything we do, where everything happens virtually from talking to people to getting to know about their lives over social media, it’s important that we inculcate self love.
There are times when we feel low, stressed, pressured about different things, frustrated over studies, work life, future and what not. There are times when we almost start to think that other people are having better live than ours. We start to feel anxious about the quality of our own lives, get depressed, overthink about alot of things that ultimately makes us more unhappy. Well, since we are humans, we are never satisfied with what we have, right? But all those happy faces over social media, they’re just moments, we never know what someone is going through by just looking at a picture, or just texting them for a period of time. Also now and then we get hurt by people we love too. And at times like this, we need nothing but a little love for ourselves from ourselves.
How to inculcate self love?
The act of loving oneself is an art and it’s a very slow process. We can’t give a particular time for it to happen like a few days, months or even years. And before self love there are many things that come into consideration like self tolerance, having confidence in oneself, self care, self therapy, etc. It doesn’t matter how many people we talk to or how many people we are close to, at the end of the day everyone has their own battle to fight. We are all by ourselves. So it’s better if we start to learn how to be self sufficient. So here are some ways to do so.
1. Practice self care :
It is very important that we get enough sleep, eat healthy and stay healthy. Start doing things that make you feel happy, relaxed and make you feel like you’re investing the time in doing something good for yourself.
2. Self therapy :
Sometimes it’s necessary that we take our own advice, obviously the positive ones! Talking to oneself is the best way that one can heal one’s inner self.
3. Self confidence :
Start by telling yourself small things like “I can do it”. If not for yourself atleast for the ones you love. Because people who care about you wants you to grow and to see you succeed in your life. Just do the thing you want and eventually confidence will follow.
4. Thinking positively about yourself:
Thinking makes a person who they are so it’s very important what we think of ourselves. Thinking positively about oneself doesn’t happen overnight. Start by telling that I’m a human and I deserve this like everyone else. If you can’t see yourself as beautiful then tell yourself that you’re not ugly. Make small changes in your way of thinking, and you will eventually see changes in you overtime.
5. You are a complete person by yourself:
Many people think that we are incomplete and that we are just a portion. There should be another person to love us and make us complete. No! That’s wrong. Every individual is complete by themselves.
6. Give yourself space and time to feel your emotions :
We as humans feel many different emotions, and we are told once in a while to take control over our emotions. But we should try surrendering to what we feel sometimes. Because stacking them up inside us will only lead to losing one’s peace of mind. If we cling to those stacked up emotions, it will only trigger the growth of negative emotions.
7. Respect and have gratitude for yourself :
Every individual is unique and gifted. Sometimes people push themselves so much that it causes them pain, it might not be physical but mentally. We do so much, sometimes for others, and sometimes to fit in the society or the status quo. We should take time to reflect on ourselves, respect ourselves and thank ourselves for everything we have done and accomplished.
How does self love heal us?
We are broken and beautiful in many ways. We as humans can never be perfect, we are bound to be flawed but it’s important that we understand ourselves and try to make ourselves a better person.
Self love helps us to believe in ourselves. We believe that time heals everything as we keep going on in our lives. But “WE” heal ourselves with time, time doesn’t heal us. It teaches us to see the positive side of every circumstance and situation that we’ve gone through, and to learn from those. It helps us to see ourselves in a way that nobody does. It reminds us that we are better off without the people that hurt us, without other people’s judgements, toxic energy and the status quo that limits us from being who we are.
There are times when I feel low, overthink about certain things, but I say fuck it, because thinking over and over again won’t make the problem go away. So it’s better to keep my peace of mind and do things that I’m supposed to do inspite of being lazy (I know y’all know it). So wrapping it up for now, take care Loves.